Just for you: a chapter from a book in progress. You can buy a copy of the whole book, right now, in PDF format, or, if you like, as a paperback. See the collected chapters so far, FREE online at If You’d Asked Me… For details, visit our home page or send a request through our Contact form.
To follow the progress online, click on the little orange icon beside the P&S Press feed, over there in the right-hand sidebar. ⇒ ⇒ ⇒
SECTION 1, Continued:
God Is Great, Beer Is Good, and People Are Crazy
18. Should I report to the police that my boyfriend killed my dog?
Please get away.
If this man has not harmed you yet, eventually he will. People who abuse animals will also abuse people.
Killing your dog IS abusing you. This kind of behavior escalates. He is likely to become very dangerous. He could even kill you.
Before you report the man to the police, you must go away to a safe place, without letting him know that is what you plan to do. Contact a woman’s shelter or arrange with a friend or relative to stay at their home. Apply for a credit card and have it sent to an address other than your home—even if you are not living with him, he might come across it in your mail.
If you have a joint bank account with him, go to another bank or (preferably) a credit union and open an account in your name only. Arrange to have statements sent to a different address or emailed to an account he does not know about. If you have a job, have your employer direct-deposit your pay to the new account.
Do not report the man to the police until you are in a safe place. At that point you should file a police report and get a restraining order against him.
This sounds all very drastic . . . but it’s nowhere near as drastic as what a man with this mentality can do to you. This is not an exaggeration. Do not wait to give him a second chance—get away now.